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Pretty normal day, except…

Written on September 10, 2009

Today started out a normal, uneventful day. I went to Weight Watchers for my weigh in… and apparently gained back 1/2 of what I lost about 2 weeks ago (boo!) so now I am back to tracking and watching my sale intake. To be honest, I kind of knew the gain was going to happen. After all, I did splurge more than I typically do most weekends. Planning to get a workout in Friday AM, Saturday AM… then maybe try a weigh in on Sunday noon again if things are controlled until then. Not to mention that an extra meeting might not be so bad for me too.

Work is going well… I’m very busy – which is good for an investment management office right now – or at least that’s what I think. Don’t get me wrong though… while I am busy – I apparently have had some serious ADD issues lately as I get SUPER distracted from things and then projects that have been started sit unfinished… even though I had planned to complete them weeks ago. I think this all has to do with the fact that I’m still tired (but who isn’t!) and that really I need to take a good hard look at what I’ve been eating (and how much!) during the day.

For my lunch hour, I had a plan to go pick up the book “Julie & Julia” from the library (which I did) because I saw the movie recently. Of course as I walked over there in the gorgeous sunshine and warm temperatures (finally!) I decided that I would definitely sit in the park to start reading it. As I walked to the park, something profound occurred to me. My birthday is in 3 weeks. I will be 32. Yikes.

Why this hits me so hard today… enough to make me want to cry… sob even… is beyond me (but I was at work, so of course I couldn’t be a blubbering idiot!) I have accomplished so much, and have so much to look forward to… but as I sit in the park – trying to read – all I see around me is couples. And it reminds me again that I have no significant other to wish me a happy birthday this year. No one to surprise me with a party, an improptu lunch visit, or even a card in the mail. I really don’t think I am asking for much… but I feel like I am asking for the world.

I trust that it will happen… but then my mind wanders… what if it doesn’t. What if I don’t ever have a long term relationship? What if I don’t get to have a beautiful wedding… showers, ceremony, honeymoon and all? What if I don’t have someone to travel around the corner or to far away places with? What if I don’t have someone to hug me when times are happy or sad?

What if, what if, what if.

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I’m thankful for online dating profiles (for humor)…

Written on August 23, 2009

Many of you know that I tried (and seemingly failed at) the online dating thing. It was definitely an experience and maybe, in another time in my life, I might try it again. But for now, I’m using the remaining months of my “free” access to find the best & most humorous profiles to post – all while keeping these poor guys as anonymous as possible. I also have not changed or altered the grammer in any way – each is from the “About me & my Date” section of this dating site.

Here are a couple of “gems” to get you started for the week. I hope you enjoy!

Milwaukee, WI – 37 years old

nice, smart man seeking a nice cool, reliable, caring, tender, cute girl to get to know better befriends, be together and enjoy the things life have to offer. 34/m/milwaukee, brown eyes, black hair. I am outgoing, I love to have fun, love sports particularly volleyball, i am also a hard worker, and also love to socialise. I drink socially and do not smoke, however smoking does not disturb me.

If you’ve had your profile on here for 3 years, you might consider – once in a while, just for fun – looking it over and seeing if there’s anything that should be changed. Like your age. That is all.

Jenison, MI – 30 years old

A woman who loves to travel to the UP or to Europe and can live in a Hotel Eight or a tent with an outhouse I would like to see if she would also be a woman who could laugh at any situation during the serious point in life, and little times when no one is watching. If you are looking for a romatic guy, I’m not him. I don’t enjoy personal displays of affection instead I take a more subtle approach that dosen’t always work.

Seriously… I think this is a joke.

Fargo, ND – 29 years old

I like a girl that takes care of her self… One that works out is very sexy. I’m a sucker for tan tone legs. Smart and someone with a sense of humor is a huge plus. So.. sound like u? Lets go get some ice cream and see where it leads.

Once again… has to be a joke. Really tan girls in North Dakota? BTW… this guy’s profile picture is of him sleeping on his (or maybe a buddies?) couch.

Burlington, IA – 28 years old

I just had to post this humorous profile pic.

Texarkana, AR – 34 years old

Not scared to laugh and practical joke, outdoors type , love to snuggle under a blanket. Wanta best friend and life long partner. Not into games. Either u like me or u dont! Im not scared to take charge and make decisions but dont wana be shuned for makin my choices after you couldnt make up your mind! lol! Love racing and anything to do with a car or motorcycle. Huge deer hunter and yes i chase turkeys too! haha can you? Lol

What does one do to chase Turkeys? Maybe I should ask. But anyway…….

So these are some options. Not very good ones for me, but options none the less. I have learned a lot about myself in the process… especially about how I should describe myself. Because I am a great person… and I know that God has someone out there for me. For now, I will just surrender this and let things happen as they may… or may not.

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The lows…

Written on April 8, 2009

So this past week pretty much sucked on the dating and food fronts. As you read last week, the guy I kinda had a crush on cancelled 2 times in 3 days. Not cool.

So anyway – this really put me in a funk about guys in general. I even posted on my Facebook page that “Julie thinks boys are stupid… we should throw rocks at them.” However, about 10 minutes later, I did put the caveat that dad’s and brother’s (most of the time) are exempt from this treatment. And to be honest, it actually gave me some sort of control back in my life. I don’t know how or why, but it did.

Then as I wrote Friday night, I changed up everything in my living room. This gave me a sense that things in my life could continue to change and I can *really* just go with the flow. (If you know me at all… I am a PLANNER… and not really a “fly by the seat of my pants” kinda girl.)

And then Sunday rolled around. It was a good morning… writing out what God’s been doing in my life and church was great as well. But then the afternoon hit. And I ate. And ate. And ate. I sat there wondering what was wrong with me… why no one wanted to date me. What am I doing wrong that seems to send guys away from me faster than a speeding bullet.

The thoughts and feelings just wouldn’t go away and I really didn’t know how to control them. The Easter candy that was in the house (that was to be saved for Easter) disappeared. Cereal was eaten… directly from the box (not a good thing for measuring portions – not that I was counting anyway.) I don’t even think one of the Weight Watcher’s Good Healthy Guidelines was eaten or complete. Well, maybe the water… but I’m a camel apparently.

Somehow I made it through Sunday… and Monday morning rolled around. Miraculously I got a good night sleep but then (cue the music) dah dah duh… I looked at the number on the scale. I was mortified. I was up 4 pounds from my goal weight in about 3 weeks. And I can honestly say much of that was because I ate due to feeling sorry for myself.

One of the first things I did after that was sign up for the Weight Watcher’s e-tools for 3 months again. I needed commitment and I am taking control. Sometimes it’s not about what you put in your mouth, but what you do immediately (or maybe the next day) after.

Since putting my money where my mouth is, I have been on plan for 3 days now. And the scale has been nice to me once again. I’m keeping going and have actually set a BRAND NEW GOAL for myself… I want to reach my 175 pounds off (from the first day I walked into Weight Watchers). This will put me well below goal and allow me to tone up and hopefully lose some more fat/gain more muscle mass.

And while I fit into the size 8 jeans I own… I’m still struggling to fit into that size of the dress pants (well, of the ones I bought at least). So someday soon, I’ll fit into all these clothes. And maybe one of these days a guy will actually notice me too. Maybe I’ll get a date. Maybe.

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Question Monday… a little late

Written on April 7, 2009

Oops. I got a little busy yesterday – and well, the daily blog didn’t happen. I’ll need to make it a double blog day today – but segment #2 probably won’t happen until after my double workout tonight. I am really starting to love these combo Zumba/GroupKick days. I just hope that I’m getting as good of a workout as what I think I am. But I digress…

So here’s the last question that came in during my plea a few weeks ago… and now I’m out. Next Monday I will either have to come up with one on my own – or you all could be sweet enough to submit some additional questions. I did change my “comment” settings yesterday – so now I believe everyone can post comments (I thought that’s how I had it set). So yeah, I just ask –PLEASE – don’t be anonymous. I like to know who is out there talking to me.

Anyway… cybeel asked “What is the naughtiest thing you wanna do to a man when he makes you sad or jealous or desperate?”

I wish I had more dating experience to give a better answer – but based on some recent experiences last week… I want to (and probably will) ignore him. I want to turn off to that person and not communicate any feelings whatsoever and just go into a “cocoon” of loneliness. And actually this would probably be ignoring everyone around me, not just him. So I guess if you all see that I’m not blogging – you know that something major like this happened!

I don’t know if that qualifies as “naughty” but it’s definitely not a healthy thing to do.

What are some of your naughty things that you want to do when your significant other makes you sad/jealous/desperate???

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