#Mamavation: The power of shame…

I’m going to start off my post this week talking about something that I originally wasn’t going to talk about… but just now can’t seem to walk away from it.

The idea by the group “Strong4Life” in Georgia that shaming parents to change their kids weight issues will work in the fight against obesity.

I can attest to being a young person with a weight problem. I’m sure that my mom & dad tried a lot of things. I was stubborn. I didn’t want to eat my veggies. I didn’t want to exercise. And I also was ridiculed and had virtually no friends throughout the first 3 years of high school. It was in my senior year that a group of friends accepted me… and made me feel so good about myself that it really did give me hope that the future could be different.

On Thursday night, Gretchen Carlson was on Bill O’Reilly talking about the shame movement… (sorry this video is bad, it was taken from my phone while watching the program.)

Ms. Carlson made my blood boil when I watched this. Yes, personal responsibility is part of it. But that’s not everything. What about the parents that *ARE* trying to help their kids? What about the parents that don’t know any different way of life? What about the parents that have lost hope? How is this benefiting the kids that are already being bullied and harassed at school?

Shame will not help. Shame will keep these parents doing the same things that they already do. Shame will make these kids feel worse about themselves. Shame will bring tears. Shame will lower self-esteem. Shame will destroy lives.

This Thursday – February 16, 2012 – Leah will be hosting another #Ashamed twitter chat to talk about this once again… and maybe even help Strong4Life come up with positive solutions.

Speaking of positive solutions…

Right now, the First Lady is working to educate the nation about the new “Let’s Move” campaign – which I personally think is a GREAT initiative. Not only does it support a positive role model – and changes that are great for families and in our “real” lives (like starting with healthier school lunches and fun things for child care centers to do). COMPLETELY THE OPPOSITE OF THE SHAME MOVEMENT IN GEORGIA.

Last week I was watching highlights of Jimmy Fallon (because I need my beauty sleep way more than I need to see the late night shows when they air) and I totally LOVED this bit that he did with First Lady, Michelle Obama. Seriously, if you want a good laugh, you totally have to watch this.

If anyone wants to challenge me to a potato sack race for this blog, I’m there. :)

In other news on my weight loss journey… I’m back to being on the right track losing just over 2 pounds this week! I’m feeling good about the changes I’m making again and seem to be on the “right track” in my mindset. This is a first in more than a year.

And I just have to say (in a little personal note here…) to everyone that has stuck by me in the times over the last 18-24 months where I haven’t felt like me, lost my way, and given up hope… Thank you for giving me that hug when I needed it. Thank you for listening to me. Thank you for the encouraging words and prayers.

Simply put. Thank you for being there for me.

And thank you most of all for not making me feel less than who I truly am in God’s eyes.


  1. Shannon @Aries_Mommy says:

    Congratulations on your weight loss!

    The idea that a negative emotion will motivate someone is insane. Hopefully, they change their tactic and begin to help these families.
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  2. Great post, that Gretchen Carlson really ticked me off too! I’ll be joining in on the twitter chat on Thursday, so I’ll see you there! Congrats on the weight loss!! :)
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  3. Thanks for pointing out that shame isn’t any motivation at all.
    Congratulations on losing 2lbs this week and being in a place that you want to be.
    Love the Pinterest challenge :)

  4. Shame is never a motivator. Plain and simple. Unless your goal is to break someone’s spirit, then shame is the opposite of what works. Loved this post. And love your spirit.
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  5. Shame never works!!! UGH….makes them suicidal more likely!

    Praying for you!!

  6. This whole shame thing sickens me. I am a firm believer in “everyone has a story” and there are reasons why these kids are overweight that shame is not going to do a thing to fix. My daughter is heavy, she has autism and takes medication that she cannot do without that causes her appetite to increase. No amount of guilt trips is going to change our situation. Ugh.
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  7. Congrats on your weightloss. Hopefully there will be changes for strong4life campaign. for the better.
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  8. Girlie, I am with you – you can so make through your challenges. Why? because you are that awesome
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  9. WONDERFUL post! And congratulations on your loss this week!

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